Being 20-something...
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MemberBeing 20-something...
Roquette
Roquette Member (7044posts)
8/7/2006 10:06:00 PM
Ok, being 20-something... They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis.....

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realising that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realising that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.

What you don't recognise is that they are realising that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job ... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realise that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realise that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.

Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.

Getting wasted and acting like an idiot don't seem as fun.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realise is that everyone reading this relates to it.

We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

Pass this to your twenty-something friends... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

heart

.... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away .....

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Taken from an e-mail...

Prometheus69
Prometheus69 Member (6894posts)
8/7/2006 10:21:00 PM

Ohhh yeah ... just wait till you get to 30 somthing ... It aint pretty.

__BuBu__
__BuBu__ Member (388posts)
8/7/2006 10:31:00 PM
Lil_Miss_Clubrocker - Well said... VERY well said. And so tru

Roquette
Roquette Member (7044posts)
8/7/2006 10:31:00 PM
^^

Thanks Bubu, but i actually can't take the credit for this one... It was e-mailed to me from a friend...

smile


quote:
Ohhh yeah ... just wait till you get to 30 somthing ... It aint pretty.


Gee thanks Prom!!! I'm looking forward to it now!... lol

tongue

yeeeaaahhh
yeeeaaahhh Member (3325posts)
8/7/2006 10:35:00 PM
Very very true Miss Rocker ....

Nice thread how you doing?

Litz
Litz Member (5170posts)
8/7/2006 11:37:00 PM
Hahahaha.... I usually have all those thoughts in one day! Funny how when you're a kid you can't wait to get older so you can do whatever you want, yet at 'our' age you realise you had more freedom being a kid and all you want is to go back to that glorious time!!

NakedAge
NakedAge Member (12820posts)
8/7/2006 11:47:00 PM
its so true, but, as a kid all i wanted to do was grow up, and now, all i wanna do is... Still grow up... when do we stop growing up?

Also, could this be a neglected phase of puberty?

Like think of it, they say puberty lasts till your like 30, anddd we all focus on our teenage years, growing pubes and pimples and blowing our first load, so like, could this be a neglected phase of puberty?

Romsta
Romsta Member (247posts)
8/8/2006 12:14:00 AM
quote:
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot don't seem as fun.


So true.... they used to be so reliable... sad

Prometheus69
Prometheus69 Member (6894posts)
8/8/2006 12:15:00 AM

George Costanza in Seifeld said it best .....

The most unfair thing about life is the way it ends. I mean,life is tough. It takes up a lot of your time. What do you get at the end of it? A death. What`s that, a bonus?
I think the life cycle is all backwards.
You should die first, get it out of the way. Then you live in an old age home. You get kicked out when you`re too young, you get a gold watch, you go to work. You work forty years until you`re young enough to enjoy retirement. You drink alcohol, you party, and you get ready for High School. You go to grade school, you become a kid, you play, you have no responsibilities, you become a little baby, you go back into the womb, you spend your last 9 months floating...then you finish off as an orgasm! Amen."

NakedAge
NakedAge Member (12820posts)
8/8/2006 12:23:00 AM
lol thats gold, thats definately how i see my life being lived big grin

WaTiSLuV
WaTiSLuV Nightlife Industry (1717posts)
8/8/2006 2:23:00 AM
Im turning 20 next month bang head

NakedAge
NakedAge Member (12820posts)
8/8/2006 2:31:00 AM
sucked in big grin

lil_cath
lil_cath Member (85posts)
8/8/2006 2:31:00 AM
what a nice email! smile I was suffering the "quatre life crisis" along with a few of my mates...
but i think u just have to worry less, embrace the change and just let things run its course.. que sera sera..whatever will be will be...Unfortunately, as easy as that all sounds, ull always have crap days when u experience all of the above symptoms, that's just inevitable...moh! sad

WaTiSLuV
WaTiSLuV Nightlife Industry (1717posts)
8/8/2006 2:35:00 AM
Sucked in harddddddddd tongue

__BuBu__
__BuBu__ Member (388posts)
8/8/2006 2:41:00 AM
i am suffering this crisis at the moment along with some friends hehe, thought it was just us losing it lol lifes a B.itch i tell ya. i think i will email this one around .

Gorgeousgeorge
Gorgeousgeorge Member (235posts)
8/8/2006 3:28:00 AM
really really nice! thats was a good read, thank u!

PAUL_B
PAUL_B Member (259posts)
8/8/2006 3:56:00 AM
couldnt agree more!

boo-boo
boo-boo Member (427posts)
8/8/2006 4:18:00 AM
WaTiSLuV - you have the brain of a dead cow, so the above doesn't apply...

WaTiSLuV
WaTiSLuV Nightlife Industry (1717posts)
8/8/2006 5:07:00 AM
LOL. > 0.05 tongue

boo-boo
boo-boo Member (427posts)
8/8/2006 5:15:00 AM
WaT? Your penis is 0.05mm in size?

Roquette
Roquette Member (7044posts)
8/8/2006 6:19:00 PM
Happy Birthday WaTisLuV... Enjoy the last month of being a teenager! lol.... big grin

Only joking and don't listen to NakedAge... Life is what you make of it and your 20's are the years you become your own person... It's scary and exciting all at once like a rollercoaster!

Just remember this thread when your about 24-25 ok...

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