she shouldnt post her problems on a website, she should talk to this guy and figure stuff out.

^ You forgot to add "useless" before the second last word, redrum.

I just was asking a question............and it's kinda hard to talk with the guy when all he does is party, so meh...

^^ Anyways to answer your original question

Guys make you jealous cause they can and in some cases it does work. Make a chick jealous and she gets pissed off that she isn't the guy's main squeeze and does everything she can to not loose the guy.

Of course that only works on the skanks and hoes

When it comes down to it... it doesn't really matter why they do what they do.
What matters is what you do when this sort of thing happens.

Canadian_mum - just start dating men you typically aren't attracted too...you're definately the reason these men are in your life.

& It isn't all men out there. I've dated wonderful men...but their personalities & mine sometimes clash... & that's okay... I've always stayed friend's with my ex's...

A couple of my Exs did that to me when I was 18/19. I grew up and learnt who I should date. This problem has not re-occured since then.

I already know this is futile but I'll offer it anyway: what a crock of crap! I

Yes it's the men you pick but you're going to keep on picking them until you grow out of it so that's not much use to you as advice. There's nothing really wrong with it . You like it - the challenge, the chase, the drama... embrace it. But start recognizing the bull**** and the man behind it.

The type of guy you're diggin' on is actually a very simple creature and easy to peg. Forget everything he's ever said to you. He lies - by default. You can cry beg or barter for the truth and he won't even for a minute consider telling it. Try it and smell the wood burning as he tries to cook up a "truth" on the fly... whatever will get him out of trouble and back in your pants at his next earliest convenience. He also fu*k's around. Why? Like my man Tayfoon tried to clue you in - because he wants to and can.

Never lose sight of this core and universal truth:

Unlike women, men are hardwired to seek as many different sexual partners as possible. Most of them can't really see a good reason not to give in to this instinctive imperative. Even the nice guys, who do hold back, and who are head of heels in love with their girlfriends will see a sexually attractive woman automatically undress her in their minds and imagining what it'd be like to... have mercy, ladies, they can't help it. If a man were offered a magical power that would guarantee to protect him from ever getting caught cheating... there isn't one alive that wouldn't piss himself with glee.

Next time you're agonizing over what he's thinking and how he feel just forget everything he ever said and look stricktly at what he did. His actions tell you everything you ever wanted to know. You can only go wrong if what you see is what you want to see - whole other issue.

So you've done it and realized he's a lying cad who doesn't care nearly as much as you'd like him to... but you'd still like him to. That's ok... there might actually be a soul in there once all the bravado and immaturity (insecurity) peel away. Try calling him on his bull****. I promise he'll sit up and take notice when he realizes you're onto him, know the truth and can handle it. Perhaps that's a tall order for you in the immediate future but down the road, if you use your wits better, you'll recall the random advice you got from some long winded know-it-all on CV.

And guys, I'm living proof that it's possible to know the deepes